Time to talk about my FAVORITE F WORD…..FEAR!
I may seem like a pretty ballsy chick but I’m not - I fear tons of things!
I fear making a complete ass of myself everyday but everyday I STILL show up.
I know what I was called here to do in this world and it is SELFISH of me to allow my personal discomfort STOP me from making a huge impact in the World.
My mission is to be apart of the solution and to SHOW you by example what is possible if you just say fuck fear and BELIEVE!
Fear has been coming up lately in a lot of my conversations especially with clients and the best piece of advice I give them is this... WDF is fear compared to the grand scheme of things?
When I think about my BIG VISION sharing the stage with Oprah, opening my own summer camp in inner city communities, starting a scholarship fund, and helping MILLIONS of people let go of poverty mindset and step BACK into Abundance consciousness- fear means NOTHING to that dream!
Being afraid is a laughable matter.
I’m more afraid of NOT fulfilling my purpose in the world and being apart of the 99% of the population who allows fear to paralyze them.
There is so much you can be afraid of:
Fear of failure. Fear of rejection. Fear of loss.
Fear of commitment. Fear of success.
Fear of being alone. Fear of not being enough (smart enough, pretty enough, worthy enough). Fear can be paralyzing if you ALLOW it to be. You have a choice to crumble or thrive! I am constantly reminding MYSELF that you have NOTHING to lose and everything to gain by taking MASSIVE ACTION to despite fear. Truthfully, fear never goes away. No matter what you do in life, you risk facing fear. The stakes are always high (it’s your life - you care about how it turns out, I get that)!
But you never know when you are going to get fired or laid off. I mean think about it - the people working for Toys R Us never in a million years thought that ONE day they would be out of a job. Hell, I Never thought they would be going out of business, some of my greatest childhood memories are from being in Toys R Us and convincing my mom to buy me the latest Barbie or Board game.
But here we are in 2018 and most of their stores have ALREADY closed down. The people working for the company thought they had a “ safe - risk-free job” but they didn’t because NOTHING is risk-free. Everything you do in life comes at a price.
Some prices are hiring to pay than others but they all come at a price but the best part is you have NOTHING to lose.
No matter what you do in life you produce a results (good or bad) you can ALWAYS move foward. There is still a lesson to be learned and action to take(no matter the “risk”). You should NEVER allow yourself to STOP growing because FEAR isn’t going anywhere. There is so much in the World that you can be afraid of, you’ll end up living your life like the Bubble Boy. You never know what is going to happen but you will never get the results YOU REALLY WANT if you keep playing it safe. NOTHING TO LOSE AND EVERYTHING TO GAIN. When I quit my job to start my coaching business and moved across the country, I knew that the odds weren’t in my favor. I constantly heard stories of people who came to LA with BIG dreams only to get them crushed. Heading back on a one-way flight full of disappointment. And that was some scary shit to face. I had NEVER left home before and I wasn’t FULLY sure if I could be 10,000 miles away from my family and friends but I KNEW if I stayed I wouldn’t be happy. I was constantly complaining about the life I DESERVED to be living and in order to have that life - I needed to start making moves and CALI was the first step. I needed to become independent and the move was SUCCESSFUL in teaching me how to take care of myself. I had to pull up my big girl panties and say FUCK YOU FEAR. I’m doing it my way. What’s the Worst That Could Happen? I would have to move back to NYC and get a job - HAHAHA
I laugh NOW because in the beginning that was extremely scary for me. I didn’t want to fail. I didn’t want to end up back in NYC. I didn’t want people talking about me and my HUGE mistake. I was spending so much time focused on what could go wrong - that I almost didn’t make the flight. But I KNEW I would be miserable if I didn’t - I needed to do this for myself. I needed to take the leap. And I knew there was a chance that I could fail but even the slightest chance that I could THRIVE was the motivation I needed to take ACTION. My best advice to you: 1. Ask yourself: What scares you the most? Playing small and NOT living out your fullest potential or failure (temporary setback).
Honestly, that is ALL fear is, just a temporary experience. NOTHING LAST FOREVER. So what is it worth to you?
What matters MOST getting shit done or being comfortable?
—> THINK OF YOUR BIG VISION: you have sooo much in life that you want to accomplish, this moment is just a temporary spook (fear) and it worth you missing out on your best life. 2. Be apart of the 1% Do it afraid. Fuck fear. Allow yourself to BET on YOU and fucking win. The most successful people in the world got to where they are now because they did it scared. They told fear to take the back seat because they were driving somewhere MAGICAL. 3. Experience MORE of Life: Have fun. Allow yourself to enjoy the journey and everything that comes along with it. There is always going to be another goal and another fear, but the journey you have along the way is going to be specific for each goal/fear so don’t let the epic memories pass you by - enjoy them. Cry hard and Laugh HARDER.